What to say when meeting?
This article is more suitable for a closed youngpeople who are not very self-confident. If a girl or a young man does not know how to properly build a conversation, then this can and should be learned. From the materials of this article, you will learn what to talk about when meeting.
Advice to a young man
If a girl meets a girl on the street and has a desire to meet her, then you need to know exactly how to behave when you meet, what to say to the girl:
Here are some recommendations:
- The rather traditional greeting "Hello!", Uttered sincerely and wholeheartedly, can in this case make a necessary, very pleasant impression.
- Well, if a man is just as sinceretell the girl that she has beautiful eyes. Or she had an excellent outfit. Say something very pleasant, for example, tell her that her perfume exudes a wonderful scent.
- If the girl wears anyextravagant detail of the toilet, the young man should notice it and ask himself the question, "What can I say about this?". Be sure to show the girl that you are observant and can appreciate her toilet.
- The next phrase can be: "I saw you, and I certainly wanted to talk to you"
- Compliments and all that a man says should sound sincere, and not look like "on-duty" phrases.
- The girl will appreciate the easy approach, with a touch of humor.
- Women, in general, like men polite, courteous, do not allow themselves a boorish and disparaging attitude.
- Sometimes women may be interested in some theatricality of phrases. Easy jesting, a subtle rally would seem ridiculous and amusing to them.
Errors when meeting a girl
And now consider the typical mistakes that can not be tolerated in a conversation with a girl when meeting.
- Do not be silent at all. Find common interests with the girl, trying to bring communication to deeper topics. The girl should be interested in conversation. But you can not talk too much. To behave naturally and calmly, and then it becomes clear what and when to speak.
- Do not try to get too interested in a girl, roughly, telling her everything about yourself, your hobbies, etc. It is necessary briefly to tell about yourself, keeping calm and some coldness.
The secret of communication
There is one secret that will unerringly helpto understand not only what to say when meeting a girl, but also what to say with further communication with her. According to the famous Carnegie, the most interesting interlocutor for us will not be the one who speaks about himself, but the one who talks about us, about what interests us personally. That is, the best topics for a conversation with a girl, there will be topics about herself. Of course, we need to know something about it. That's why when you meet, ask questions. About her family, about her hobbies, about what she loves and what she can not stand. The girl herself will be pleased to talk about her campaigns for training, about brothers and sisters, about whether her grandparents are still alive. She enthusiastically tells about her four-footed pet, or an aquarium with fish. But questions should be asked tactfully, without pressure and pressure, so that it does not resemble interrogation. Answers should be listened to attentively, and if further communication is planned, they will of course be memorized.
Advice for a girl
Male beings are very sensitive, sometimes one careless phrase, and acquaintance can result in nothing. The article will tell you what to say when you meet a man and what not to say.
- You can not be nervous. Excitement when meeting is inherent in all, but it is impossible for a man to notice it. Nervousness they do not like. Do not swing your foot, hit the countertop or "crackle" your fingers.
- It is impossible to build at once plans for the future, and even more so, to talk about it out loud. Men do not like it.
- The opinion that men like sillywomen, is mistaken. Men do not like clumsy speech, incorrectly constructed phrases and inability to choose the right words. This means that intelligent men like men, just do not have to "trump" strongly with their erudition.
- You can not publicly humiliate or manipulate a man. As much as he does not belong to a woman, he definitely will not like it.
- You need to smile, joke, laugh. This will discharge any, even the most tense situation. Only laughter should not be too loud or hysterical.
- Female kindness is a huge plus, but the excessivesentimentality can scare a man. Unnecessary tears at the first meeting should be avoided, otherwise the first date risks becoming the last. In unpleasant situations it is necessary to react with dignity. A man will appreciate the ability of a woman to behave in a difficult situation.
- Men like women who have their ownopinion, but you can not impose it. In no case can it be to please a man, to agree with all his thoughts. A man will seem boring.
- You can not talk about your past relationship. The man is the owner, he will not like it.
- If a woman occupies a leading position and is used totalk in a commanding voice, she should forget about it at the first acquaintance with a man, and at the subsequent communication too. A rare man can tolerate this.
- To a man does not feel deprived of attention and a few abandoned, all telephone conversations during the communication should be postponed.
- In order for a man to want to continue his acquaintance, he must remain a mystery to him.